Our theme for our 2016 Immersion Experience is being Known, Wanted, Treasured and Adored.
This means different things to different people. We have been hearing many varied perspectives from the women at our networking events.
We have been exploring this topic since June last year and will be leading a series of dynamic, reflective and life-changing workshops at the Immersion Experience that really get to the heart of becoming ‘unfrozen’ and choosing instead to be fully and happily alive.
When you allow yourself to become immersed in this subject fully, it provokes a very deep response, sometimes of joy, sometimes sadness. What does being Known, Wanted, Treasured and Adored arouse in you?
This is such a rich and layered topic that a blog cannot do it full justice, but for now we want to share some of what it means to us personally.
Mel – Being Willing to Receive
I started this enquiry by wondering which word – Known, Wanted, Treasured or Adored – I should pick, until it eventually dawned on me that I could choose all of them if I wanted to!
I already feel very treasured and adored by my husband, family and friends. I feel very blessed in that respect.
I also experience this in my work as I am fortunate to work with many extraordinary creative and caring people. A lot of this is the result of paying attention to my own personal development over many years.
In the last 8 months, as we looked at this ‘KWTA thing’, I started to wonder what is at the heart of a life that offers all this and more? There are lots of avenues to being KWTA but being willing to receive is a key one for me personally. It’s vital to having a happy and fulfilled life.
As a child I was taught to think a lot about giving which was a good culture to be born into. But there needs to be a healthy balance in life between give and take.
In order to continue to grow, I see more and more that I need to be open and able to receive certain things. These include: positive feedback, support, love, contributions, life-lessons and most importantly, new expanded beliefs that empower me and the people around me.
I’ve noticed that miraculously, the more I am open to receive, the more good things flow into my life and consequently the more I have to give – so it all works out beautifully.
Catherine – Getting Under Your Own Skin
As you may know I am not a woman to shy away from the limelight.
There are some ‘old ways’ that I have dealt with over the last few years to grow to a new level of confidence and wisdom. Taking on this ‘growth work’, as we refer to it at Women on Purpose, has caused me to attract even more attention in my professional role (and attracted a rather lovely love interest too!)
Like Mel and Ishreen I have been on a journey of self-discovery for a good twenty-five years now and it continues I have really focussed on two dimensions over the last 5 years:
– What it is to be truly known and treasured for who you are by a life partner.
– Stepping onto centre stage at a much deeper level in a professional sense.
This latter aspect has included adopting more of a politically active role. Being more explicit with Senior and Political Leaders. Being prepared to be a lone voice in the expression of some views.
Both aspects have required me to look at myself more deeply and to take ownership of who I am both inside and out.
Interestingly the most significant shifts have been through being photographed and experiencing how others see me in a whole new way.
I came to realise that I had some quite deep seated views about how I looked, about my imperfections and the quite large space they occupied around my overall body image, self-esteem and confidence.
To be completely honest I was a bit embarrassed about my discoveries and wanted to close down from looking any deeper.
I could feel a pull towards exposing something that was holding me back though and stole myself to continue.
My first set of photographs, taken by a dear friend caused me to recoil thought that she had photo-shopped the images and could barely look at them.
I experienced them as a lie. “I did not look like that, I was sure of it”, I thought.
My friend, bless her, texted and emailed me asking me if I’d received the photos. Days later I replied and also had a call with her. I talked with her about my belief that the photos had been hugely touched up.
In response she laughed and said ‘I thought something was going on; you are beautiful’.
This statement stunned me and honestly it has taken time to work it through to a place of owning my beauty, both inside and out.
The beginning to this journey felt self indulgent and completely contrary to my personal position on our psychology as women, how long we have battled objectification, only being valued for how we look.
This inner journey has brought a new level of confidence though, further amplified during two subsequent photo-shoots for professional profiles. I can now see myself for truly who I am, inside and out.
This still relatively new-found knowledge gives me a freedom to not even think about it anymore.
It is still relatively new though to know myself on another level; this knowing has given rise to me allowing others to see me, know me and cherish me.
Ishreen – Learning to Create it Within Me
This inquiry has led me to the profound understanding that I want to be Known and Wanted.Not for myself…well, of course the little girl in me does want it for myself…but what I realise is that I can’t fulfil on my purpose in the world if I am not known and wanted.
There is a world of women out there that I have an opportunity to help.
For me to be able to reach them, I do have to be known and wanted by them.
I have to be known on the world stage as someone who shifts what it means to be a woman in the world.
That is what I am here to do.
I am pleased to say that I am not alone in this mission. Some people like my friend Lee Chalmers are doing it through politics Others through the caring services.
My contribution to this shift is by enabling women to know truly who they are and live their lives on purpose to achieve their maximum potential.
As for being treasured and adored,these were very important to me in my younger days.
I have been blessed to have family and friends who do treasure and adore me.
My grandmother doted on me as her protégée and nurtured me in a way that still brings tears to my eyes. The rest of my family and community adored me for my achievements and I thrived on it.
Today, I have come to a place where I have learned to create this for myself.
I value what I have to provide and who I am. The fuel of being known, wanted, treasured and adored by others is lovely, but it does not have the hold on me that it did have when I was in my 20s and 30s.
Knowing that you are here for a purpose. That everything you are is designed to fulfill on that purpose.
I truly believe that when you create being known, wanted, treasured and adored for yourself, you can make your special and unique contribution to the world.
That is what each of us is here to do.